Woman Says She’s Moved on After Ex-Husband Walked Out, Now He Wants to Come Back

A woman is unsure if she should take her husband back — months after he left her for someone else.

She detailed her dilemma in a post on the U.K.-based community forum Mumsnet, beginning by explaining that her ex left her in February. He “said ‘he wasn’t happy’ and ‘needed time to figure himself out,’ which basically meant he’d been seeing someone else,” the OP (original poster) wrote.

After he walked out, she was left to pick up the pieces at home.

“He moved in with her sharpish, left me with two kids under 6 and a mortgage to deal with. I was wrecked but got on with it because I had to,” she wrote.

Just as she had begun to move on with her life, her mother-in-law called to tell her that her ex had been hospitalized after an incident at a bar.

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“He got into it with some bloke outside a pub who was kicking off at his new girlfriend. Tried to break it up and got badly hurt,” the OP said.

She took their kids to see him in the hospital. While she was relieved that he seemed OK, she was surprised to learn that he had a change of heart about being with her.

“It was honestly surreal. He looked at me like he hadn’t seen me in years. Got emotional, said he’s been stupid, wants to come home, wants his family back,” the OP recalled.

She said her mother-in-law “is acting like I should just forgive and forget,” and sending messages that he is still the father of their kids and not to do anything hasty. But the OP insisted she was not eager to get back together with her ex as she’s just beginning to heal from how the relationship ended.

“I’m not sure I even want him back,” she explained. “I’ve only just stopped crying every night. I’ve started sorting myself out again and even been chatting to someone new. Nothing serious, but he’s kind and makes me laugh. Ex hasn’t even apologized properly for what he put me through.”

The woman said she’s struggling to forget all the hurt that led to this point.

“I keep thinking about how quick he left. And now he’s lying in a hospital bed feeling sorry for himself and suddenly remembers he had a family? It’s all a bit too convenient,” she wrote.

In the comments section of her post, most readers had the same take on the situation, urging the OP to continue moving forward and not entertain her ex’s request to reconcile.

“Say NO,” one person wrote. “He showed you who he is. You’re rebuilding your life. Keep going! Best off without him!”

“Absolutely not!” another agreed. “He’s done it once and if you forgive him he’ll do it again. He made his bed, now he can lie in it.”

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One commenter suggested that she remain civil for the sake of their children and let her ex’s “meddling” mom handle the rest. 

“Support him (if you wish) for the sake of the kids, but never take him back. He can move in with his mum if she wants him,” they wrote.